Just like all of us expect of ourselves, you dream of becoming a successful person who can show your energy and charisma from the inside out. Even if you suffer some immediate losses, you have the determination to change your character. But even if you have taken ambitious steps forward, ready to enter a long and difficult journey, I still want to remind you: Dear friend, there are many great people on this planet, the most important it is not their character, or their perseverance, their creative spirit, but how they treat their mistakes.
The point is, when you’re having a bad day, or when you inadvertently make a mistake with bad consequences, do you know how to take some punishment and then adjust yourself? You know that there is a price to pay for doing wrong and that no mistake goes unpunished. On the other hand, you have to learn how to utilize pressure as a kind of force to trigger you for the maximum performance and become stronger, but the adjustment afterward is even more important.
When you know that you may have done something wrong, here are three suggestions that can help you get through and become a stronger person:
1. Don’t be bias.
Never just blame others for mistakes, especially if you think you might make mistakes. The reality is that people are always on their own side, kicking mistakes like a ball to others. For example, if you doubt whether he has a problem somewhere, he will not hesitate to question you out loud and pin the full blame on you.
The atmosphere of throwing mistakes aside and fighting to protect yourself is everywhere, even in the offices of big companies like Google and Microsoft, where this scene is played out every day! Often, the problem is that everyone is not thinking from the other person’s perspective and taking their feelings into account. Don’t assume that you are right about everything!
2. Find the problem.
If people are still blindly obsessed with their initial judgments, defend their unchallengeable dignity, do not take their mistakes seriously, and reflect the victim mentality within their hearts…
If you are impatient and quick to make a conclusion, you just magnify your initial judgment infinitely, and you also neglect other possibilities. The real situation may be the furthest away from the first judgment. It is hidden behind you, but you stubbornly refuse to turn around.
Therefore, we must dig into it and find out the problems! Rather than forget it as soon as possible, rather than let things continue to be entangled in it！
Even the smallest mistake, we must find it out with the best effort! Shouldn’t anyone responsible for themselves be so? Many people always become extremely lazy and weak when facing mistakes, hoping that time will solve everything for them. Now I want to tell you that time will only let the seeds sprouting and will never eliminate mistakes that happened to you!
3. Make an improvement plan.
The most important step is that you have to use the right plan to deal with your behavior and repair the cracks caused by your mistakes. It is meaningless to blame yourself, it will put an additional burden on your already black and gloomy condition, leaving you in a state of uneasiness for a long time.
Develop a recovery plan for yourself, and then implement it with passion. A recovery plan is like a self-punishment that not only has a huge impact on your life but also corrects your future mindset about things.
When you start to make a plan again, you have to carry out real goal management: determine a feasible goal, and break out this big plan into many sub-goals, or small and practical steps, each sub-goal or step must design a clear timetable. Remember, you must write it down in white and black!
Before going to bed every day, take out your own planner and check it out. Ticking off what you’ve completed, circling what you’ve generally done, and putting a question mark on what you haven’t done for a particular reason.
This is a positive practice that tells yourself that you need to think about the reason for doing and make it up in time tomorrow. You may delay some time, but you will not miss the whole plan.
Punishment and reflection must be one and the same. When you make a mistake, you can’t just take revenge against yourself, the key is to think calmly. Where is the problem? If there is a problem in the implementation process, you should check why there is a deviation and how to avoid it in the future. If the plan itself is wrong, it should start all over again and redraw the blueprint.
When we mess up things due to some mistakes, the best punishment is to start making more detailed plans, so that you can develop good habits to deal with more challenges in the future.